5th EFT International Summer School 2020 in London, UK
From Shattered Attachment to Recovery and Growth
7th-10th October (full day + morning)
‘Fighting for Connection: EFT and Intimate Partner Violence’
with Lieven Migerode, EFT Trainer, and Jef Slootmaeckers, EFT supervisor, Belgium.
Research shows that intimate partner violence is rather frequent, even more so in couples seeking couples therapy. However, the subject of violence often remains hidden for the therapist. Where it is clear that there is intimate partner violence couples seeking therapy may not be accepted, at least until there has been individual treatment of the violence.
The vision of this workshop is that, in many couples, the underlying strong, heavy negative interaction patterns have a key role in the violence. We stress how these patterns can be understood in an attachment frame.
When the violence between the partners becomes the subject of the therapeutic process it is remarkable that these couples mostly want us, therapists, to work towards a safer relationship where they can stay together and where the violence stops. How can this be approached when violence is often seen as a contraindication for couple’s therapy and EFT? Based on new scientific knowledge about intimate partner violence and their clinical experience, Lieven and Jef have worked together to come to a better understanding of this difficult relational drama. Our work is based on EFT because, as an attachment based psychotherapy, EFT is well suited to help the couples to stop the violence and find connection again.
In this workshop we outline a theoretical roadmap to understand intimate partner violence from an attachment focused point of view. In this we still exclude Intimate Terrorism because its underlying control mechanism makes it unsuitable for couples work. We refine the art of working with EFT towards a therapy process where hope and taking responsibility go hand in hand with emotion work, cycle work. Accepting the humanity of the partners while at the same time holding every person accountable for his or her actions is key. We outline specific interventions to use and discuss important topics such as assessment, de-escalation, the attachment meanings of violence, and the self of therapist.
We will work with video material, role play, personal exercise and make space for discussion.
Slootmaeckers, J. & Migerode, L. (2018). Fighting for Connection: Patterns of Intimate Partner Violence. Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 17, 294-312.
Slootmaeckers, J & Migerode, L. (2019). EFT and Intimate Partner Violence. A roadmap to de-escalating violent patterns. Family Process DOI: 10.1111/famp.12468
‘The Future of Psychotherapy – Attachment Science in Action’
featuring Dr Sue Johnson, Canada, developer of EFT, live webinar with Q&As from participants.
It has been acknowledged for many years that the field of psychotherapy is in chaos – so many therapy models, diagnoses and disorders, and micro-interventions. Attachment theory and science offers us the long awaited straight path home to clarity, integration and order in our field. Attachment now offers us a map, an empirically tested map, to the emotional life and stuck places of adults and the dramas that shape their sense of self and how they relate to others. This presentation will outline the implications of attachment theory for psychotherapy and use the practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy with individuals, couples and families to illustrate those principles. A series of key interventions will be outlined.
Sue Johnson presentation will be based on her exciting and innovative new book, Attachment Theory in Practice: EFT with Individuals, Couples and Families.
There will also be time for questions to Sue and further discussion supported by Gulya Diyarova and Sandra Taylor.
High Waters, Stormy Seas – Attuning and Navigating toward Safety and Connection with Extreme Escalation of Strident Pursuers and Shut-Down Withdrawers.
With Ryan Rana, PhD, LMFT, LPC, EFT Trainer, USA
We all know that attuned presence and connection is the key to restoring bonds in EFT, but such lovely concepts can fly out the window quickly when extreme energy enters our office. This seminar focuses on creating specific and intentional plans for when these predictable manifestations of extreme mistrust enter your office. Specific plans allow us to stay fully present and keep our radical empathy online, even in the most challenging scenarios. Most therapists work well with one extreme or the other (strong pursuer or withdrawer), but rarely are equally prepared for both. This practical and hands-on presentation will help you identify which energy you may need a little growth in working with and why that energy may be so personally challenging. Practical applications and role plays will . utilize practical help participants develop a strong foundation and intentional moves to master the blocks that come when working with strident pursuers and shut-down withdrawers.
This interactive workshop will use role-plays, video clip demonstrations of real couples’ sessions and didactic material for discussion and exploration.
EFT Therapists will review and learn:
- An overview of Attachment and emotional bonding as the foundation of intimate relationships.
- A review of Attachment styles and withdrawer/pursuer cycles
- Self of Therapist attachment style identification of patterns when working with the different energies
- How to expect blocks and effectively respond to such mistrust in action.
- How to develop a plan to help therapist stay focused in working with chaotic and reactive energy.
- Specific plans and strategies for dealing with escalated, strident pursuers (often tied to trauma).
- Specific plans and strategies for dealing with clients who are very shut down and withdrawn.
- See the clarify in how to deconstruct the complexities of EFT into clear focus of “finishing the mission,” one at a time.
Ideally, participants have a basic training in EFT or should read basic works for foundational knowledge that can be built upon.
For All Participants – EFT-Newcomers and EFT-Trained Cohort
Bonus session – only £25
Presentation: Where Polyvagal and EFT Meet?
Presenter: Gulya Diyarova, London, UK, MSc Tavistock, Cert. EFT therapist and supervisor,UKCP reg., Acc. COSRT, BACP, ICEEFT
‘Where Are You…? Where Am I…?’How Does Polyvagal theory inform EFT Clinician’
Since Stephen Porges proposed his Polyvagal Theory (1994), linking the role of Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) in managing risks and safety to the emergence of Social Engagement behaviour, it has arguably become one of the most promising and innovative developments to impact the therapy world in the past 25 years. Named ‘Science of safety’ (D. Dana, 2018), it is about feeling safe enough to fall in love and take the risks of connection, which is also the major tenet of EFT approach.
This workshop goes BEYOND neuroscience, attempting to show the ways of integrating Polyvagal Theory and EFT in our clinical practice:
- Getting to know your Nervous System. Polyvagal Ladder.
- Why distressed clients continually move through an enduring cycle of fight or flight mobilisation, numbness and disconnect?
- Polyvagal and EFT. Where do they meet?
- How to apply polyvagal lens and EFT in re-patterning the ways the ANS operate when the drive to survive competes with the longing to connect?
- How to access clients’ Social Engagement System to co-regulate and help to shift their experiences and personal narratives to feeling heroic and not victimised?
Times: Days to run from 9.30am till 5pm on all days.
Registration and the Schedule
– Registration for 4-Day and Block 1 participants – Wed 7th Oct at 8.30am
(the training will run 9.30am till 5pm),
– Thurs 8th Oct – 9.30 till 5pm,
– Registration for Block 2 participants – TBC
– Friday 9th Oct- 9.30am-5pm
– Saturday 10th Oct – 9.30am-1pm
For All participants – EFT-Newcomers and EFT-Trained
TBC – Bonus session on Polyvagal theory and EFT (just £25)
We normally take a decision as to whether we have sufficient numbers to run an event six weeks prior to the event.
If you are having to travel to London, we suggest that you bear this in mind when making your travel and accommodation arrangements as we cannot be held liable for any costs incurred if we have to cancel an event.
Please take care of your personal safety and your belongings while at our training events. We are not responsible for any accident or personal injury that occurs during our training events or items that are lost or stolen during our courses and workshops.
EFT International School reserves the right to amend, change or cancel workshops or trainers at its own discretion due to circumstances beyond our control.